Friday, December 31, 2010
2011 will be a year of changes ~
some good, some "not so much" ...
but my friends will always be with me ~
whether close by or far away;
I know all that I have to do is call!
They will be there to hold my hand & my heart ...
wipe my tears & share my laughter ...
be honest with me, even when it hurts ...
I have good friends ... I am blessed!
Happy New Year 2011
Friday, December 24, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
My best friend ... she always tells me like it is ~ whether I like it or not, whether it hurts or makes me laugh ~ it's always the truth. She may not always like me, but she always loves me!
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Unfortunately, many of these are lost in today's society.
It's very sad!
I see it everywhere -it's not racial, ethnic, age, or gender related ...
it's not made worse or better by a socio-economic and/or monetary status.
It is literally a way of life, a culture that we accept.
When did being a "good" decent person become so unpopular?
Sandy C Turk
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Monday, November 1, 2010
"Fear, Pride, and Dishonesty are all thieves of happiness. A truly happy person isn't afraid of the truth, isn't afraid to fail, and isn't afraid to lose~they hope and they live and they love with all their heart,all without regret." Denise Hildreth
Friday, October 15, 2010
What a passage ... it's amazing how those few words are so important everyday in my life.
It hasn't always been this way for me, either. Really, it's just been in the most recent few years that I have come to fully understand the meaning of that passage.
My life has taken many unexpected turns, some good and some "not so good," but learning, not only what love IS, but HOW TO LOVE COMPLETELY has been a treasured gift that I have experienced! It's an awesome, amazing feeling!!!
Truly LOVE IS THE GREATEST!
It took a while for me to "get it" but complete love is so simple and so easy ... it's not something to "do" ~ it is something that "IS" and you can't force it or change it ~ make it happen or make it stop. GOD IS GOOD THAT WAY ...
When I learned to love ~ I learned what real pain feels like.
When I learned to love ~ I learned sacrifice.
When I accepted love as complete, unconditional, and out of my control~ I learned to forgive.
My ability to love isn't about me ~ love is given ~ and only when it is given away, can it be accepted!
1 Corinthians 13Love Is the Greatest1 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing. 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless.
But love will last forever!
(*)"Savannah from Savannah" by Denise Hildreth
Sunday, October 10, 2010
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Sandy C Turk
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Saturday, September 11, 2010
Friday, September 10, 2010
The difference between friendship and love is how much you can hurt each other ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
by Jose Astorga and Carmel Brulez.
The difference between love and friendship is the level of commitment, sacrifice and preservation of personal space allowed. The difference between love and friendship is that love transcends all material space while friendship, even though capable of being transcendent has some minor limitations or differences.
There is no question that the lines between love and friendship can be blurred. Those are the friendships that rise into family love status and not simply because of a biological tie or lack thereof. And of course, friends can become lovers and eternal partners.
People are under the impression that they must love family simply because they are family. I could, but I would not necessarily categorize family care and bonding as love unless one has the opportunity to develop that special bonding that can be described as true love. Family begins with a blood line and genetic bond and love develops thereafter.
You see there are different kinds of love and friendships and they can be classified at different levels.
Most people experience a few loves throughout their life times and some only once.
True love never dissipates. It is alwayspresent.
One can move on and develop other relationships or even fall in love again, but true love is timeless and remains forever. Everything else is simply passing relationships. A love for one person simply gets set aside in order to function in a new set of circumstances or relationship where love can, like a flower, bloom again.
But true love never wilts.
For some people, the first inkling of true and the most innocent kind of love is the birth of their children. There is no more powerful love in the world than the love of a parent for a new born child and no more atomic powered love than that of a mother and child-it is almost beyond comprehension.
Then there is the love of a friend or family member where love develops into a strong and unquestioned support system that normally lasts a lifetime. Most people have many friends and acquaintances, but loving friendships can, for the most part, be counted on one hand.
How can you tell the difference? Simple. With true love, you never feel the need to lie and you can always be honest with yourself and the one you love.
· True love is present when honesty, compassion, forgiveness and understanding come before self-serving needs.
· True love is present when life throws you a curve and as you fall out of the way or from the impact, someone is there to catch you.
· True love is present when nothing is expected in return.
· True love is present when you don't see someone for many years, yet not a moment has passed without her.
· True love is present when the winds of change blow painfully hard and bonds remain.
The difference between love and friendship can be as fine as a double edged blade that can either cut you or groom you
Love is a strong pull towards someone irrespective of whether it is right or wrong or how the person behaves or treats you.
You may love someone who neglects you, hurts you, uses you, cheats on you or is violent towards you. You often wish you did not have these feelings for them as you would be better off without them.
Love within a one to one relationship is about a very special closeness, which usually includes passion, lust and romance. If both of the people involved feel that special feeling towards the other they are in love with each other. If they also feel they are compatible and have a lot in common and are on the same wavelength, with total honesty, they have the beginning of what could turn out to be a great relationship; so long as they both work hard at it.
Friendship is where you like someone but are not in love with them and do not fancy them.
A woman can have a male friend that she enjoys going out with and chatting to, but would never in a million years wish to kiss in a sexual way.
Friendship is more laid back than love. You might have a best friend who is important to you and contributes towards making your life happier, yet where you do not see them much. Perhaps you keep in touch with emails, phone or texts, but the fact that the closeness is there is the main thing. You do not need them to take up a large slice of your time to be happy. It is not love.
Love would mean that you would miss them and feel incomplete when you are apart from them. You would try harder to be with them and spend time with them and feel uncomfortable or sad when this cannot be.
Love is a very special feeling which you only have for one person.
You may have lots of friends and you may well value them all very much, but this person you love is the person you cherish above all of your friends. You value that relationship with the one you love the most and want to be with them the most. They are the one you wish to do special things with and plan a future with. You would make sure you spend a lot of time with them, if possible, live with them, be with them or see them a great deal. You would do anything within your power to make sure that nothing parts the two of you whether this be another person, a job, moving or other circumstances you can make decisions about and control. This person is your other half. The person you think of when you wake up and think of when you go to sleep.
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Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Clara had Kitten Hypoglycemia: Low Blood Sugar
Hypoglycemia simply means a low blood sugar. Glucose is the form of sugar found within the bloodstream. Glucose is formed during the digestion of foods and it can be stored within the liver in a storage form called glycogen. Most instances of
low blood sugar (hypoglycemia) in the kitten are the result of inadequate nutrition; either not enough or poor quality(undigestible) food. Excessive exercise may also cause the body to use up more sugar than is available.
What are the symptoms?
A kitten with hypoglycemia will lack energy. Glucose (sugar) is the fuel the body burns for energy; without it the kitten is listless. In severe instances, the kitten may even seizure, since glucose is necessary for the brain tissue and muscles to function. These hypoglycemic episodes will cause the kitten to fall over and appear weak or comatose.
What are the risks?
The risks depend on the severity or extent of the lack of blood sugar. If it is due to lack of food or excessive exercise, it can beeasily corrected. If however, the underlying cause is more serious, such as liver disease preventing the storage of glucose as glycogen, or intestinal disease preventing the proper digestion and/or absorption of food, then hypoglycemia may be chronic and life threatening.
What is the management?
If a kitten is listless due to low blood sugar, it is imperative to immediately provide sugar. Karo syrup and honey are excellent sugar sources and should be fed to the kitten. If the kitten fails to respond to sugar, or the hypoglycemic episodes are frequent,then a thorough exam by a veterinarian is in order. It must be determined if the low blood sugar is simply the result of inadequate nutrition or a more severe underlying disease.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
I am not the smartest, the sexiest, the sweetest, nor the easiest to get along with.
I am your average, normal, “everyday” 42 year old single Mom! I have a 14 year daughter that I love as if she were my “MOM HEART” with arms, legs, and a head! I work full time and, although I do have a relatively “odd and sarcastic” sense of humor, I have been told that I am an “ice princess.” I like to have fun ~ but I do have a serious side, too. And, contrary to popular belief ~ and the fact that I have been divorced 11 ½ years ~ I have a soft, sweet, gentle, feminine, loving side as well; however, not too many have actually witnessed “that” me! Most see “Sandyrella ~ serious, all work and no play/fun” ~ Only a fortunate few have taken the time to tear down the walls that I have surrounded myself with; those few know the “real” me that the rest of world never see!
Having said all of that, I am not a selfish person. I am somewhat insecure and truly not the “most” confident. I have been known to sigh, huff, and stamp my foot, and “whompa – whompa” from time to time! I usually always apologize first, but I stand firm on what I believe and what I know to be true.
As a woman, I have been told that I don’t use “what God gave me” to get my way* ... I am not manipulative. In fact, I am just the opposite, I am tooooooo honest! I usually end up not getting what I want because I am too honest and I just don’t like to compete. Don’t get me wrong, I will work hard for what I want ~ I always have ~ because “if it isn’t worth working for, making a sacrifice to achieve the reward” then the reward must not be all that special and important. Patience is not my strongest ally, but I am working on that!
Now, a point of clarification here: I'm not a person who hates my body*. This body of mine has survived years of Crohn’s Disease and a battle with Breast Cancer and all the surgeries and meds that go along with both! This body has borne my child, produced and nurtured my daughter, even while doctors told me no such thing was possible. This body has known pleasure and given pleasure and allowed me to experience life through the richness of all of my senses.
This body is a blessing!
It is powerful!
It is womanly!
I live in gratitude for it!
But, in regards to my body, let's be honest: Nobody is going to see me in a swimsuit/bikini and immediately appreciate my body for all that it has done and been through!
My hesitation, my anxiety — nay, my total terror — of the bikini has to do with aesthetics. All that living I have done has now, at age 40-something, left its souvenirs (scars, bulges, wrinkles, and these freaky little age-spot thingys, to name a few).
But, I have come to a realization... If I can’t change my body, the only possible thing I can change is the way I care about how people might “judge” my body.
In retrospect, isn't this the very nature of self-esteem? Unshakeable self-esteem translates as an understanding and acceptance, and dare I say “appreciation” of who and what you are, irrespective of the estimations of others. At least, that is what I think it is...
At any rate, the only real choice I have, other than to care what others think about me, my life, my attitude, my body, is to just stop caring!
Seriously... STOP! .... Like flipping off a light switch.
Because, if I continue to worry about whether I am good enough, sweet enough, pretty enough ~ “anything enough” ~ I will be miserable and self-conscious, neither of which are fun or improve and enrich my life! It’s a waste of my energy ... and I need every single ounce of energy within me, just to be ME!
Monday, May 17, 2010
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Wednesday, March 17, 2010
I love this song. Her voice is so pure and passionate ~ powerful.
Ever have one of those days when you aren't really sure what to believe ... is it real or are you only seeing what you want to see and using your blinders to block out the whole truth just so you don't have to deal with it? Today has been one of those days for me ... just for a little bit, I'm choosing to believe only what I want to believe ~ I don't want to think about the "whole truth & reality" ~ not right now. Today ... for a while... I'm pretending that everything is just the way I want it to be!
Maybe I am “mad as the proverbial hatter” ~ grasping for the unknown, while what’s in front of me is slowly, but surely, disappearing before my eyes … I don’t know … but I do know that I never take anything, or anyone, for granted in life but if I stop and settle just because it’s available and give up on what my heart knows is real, I’ve already lost … the mind can be manipulated but the heart cannot.
I have always prided myself on being independent, self-sufficient and for making my own choices in life, but sometimes I let other people make the choices for me because, for whatever reason, I don't do it myself. Fear? Maybe. Uncertainty? Maybe. It's ironic how I can "know" something, acknowledge it, accept it, and yet still think it isn't "really" an issue. "Not IF" ... "WHEN" ~ that's what my BFF is forever reminding me. Sometimes, I don't want to be reminded; it's easier to forget ~ well, not really forget, but chose not to remember. LOL!
My daughter is 14. She got her braces off today and she is absolutely gorgeous! I remember being 14 ~ 8th grade ~ and completely smitten for the first time in my young life with a boy in high school! Good times! Fun ... Carefree ... HAPPY! I was THE ONLY GIRL for him and he was THE ONLY GUY for me! LOL! Young love ~ pure and true.
As a single MOM, it's scary ... but she's a good kid and we have an open relationship ... having said that, she is still a 14 year old teenage girl and they don't really have a brain! LOL! Teenage boys are worse! AAAAHHHHH!
I am a 42 year old woman living in my own "alternate" reality because I don't want to see the "when, not if" of my own life and circumstances and relationships ... how wonderful it would be to have the innocence and hope of a 14 year old again! Life - minus the hurt of all the experiences that have made it wonderful and sad and REAL!
What I have lost in years, I have gained in passion and gratitude ~ and I learned that, sometimes, choosing to be deaf, dumb, and blind isn't all that bad! Especially if it makes you feel special, important, beautiful, wanted... and happy, even for a minute...
As dear Scarlett would say "I can't think about that right now. If I do, I'll go crazy. I'll think about that tomorrow.
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
I did a 45 minute INSANITY cardio class today at the gym, followed up an hour later by a 60 minute HIP/HOP BOOTY BALLET class! I am insane!
My "booty" is feeling the love tonight, believe me! LOL!
You know ... I go to the gym a minimum of 4 days per week (they are closed on Sunday) and take at least one class on each of the days I am there.
The answer is what's "messed up" ~
I do it because I don't want OTHER WOMEN commenting that "I'm fat" ~ heaven forbid,in a bikini!!!
At 5'6" ~ 121 lbs and < 20% body fat ... I AM NOT fat, by any calculation ~ except that of another woman and a mirror! LOL! Ladies, it's called "curves" and men like them! SHEEEE-EEEESH!!
Now, I've neverrrr had a man comment that I am fat ...
It's usually more along the lines of:"umm umm, hey baby, want some fries with that shake..." or some asinine remark such as that - totally a comment not generated in the brain ~ trust me!
BUT... other women ... totally different ballgame!!!!
I mean,one ounce of "jiggle" in the wrong place (booty and/or thighs) and that's a serious cause for the following to be said by "passer-by" females and whether or not they know you, is not important!
"OMG... can you BELIEVE she is wearing THAT? Did she not look in the mirror before she left the house??? Doesn't she have any "real" friends ~ obviously "NOT" or they would have told her "Girlfriend, you need to cover that up! or buy one size bigger ... HELLO!"
I work at the gym, like a crazy person, a minimum of 4 hours per week to avoid this ... It's a "girl" thing! LOL!
I'm 42 ~ my 14 year old deals with this ... I really should be past it, but it neverrrrr ends!! EVER!
When we, as women, are more like a man and happy at any age, weight, stage of life~ fat, bald, WHATEVER ~ then, and only then, can we appreciate the "joys" of being a man! LOL!
As long as they have functioning parts, they are happy and proud! It's amazing!
However, until the time of total acceptance and "whatever bliss" is common place among women, it appears that the fitness centers will keep racking in the big bucks -because as opinionated and judgemental (and jealous) women,we are going to pay the monthly dues, no matter what they cost!
Besides, who needs to spend money on food when you're trying to fit into a bikini, or a size 5?!?!
Food, at this point, is highly over-rated! LOL!!!! Spend it at the gym~on fees & protein bars!!!
I'm going to bed ... if I can get my sore booty up and walk in there!!!
I need to rest ... it's only 8 1/2 hours til 6:30 tomorrow night and I get to do it again!!!
I can't wait!! .... LMAO!!! (not really, I'm trying to "work" it off!!!)
Friday, February 12, 2010
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Take today for instance ... when I got home from work, I checked my mailbox only to find several things I did not want and ONE that I did ... a little box of chocolates! I have the BEST BFF in the world... it's ironic how "she" happened into my life & world, too! Another story for another day... BUT, I went 41 years without a "real" best girlfriend and then, WHAM ... I get breast cancer, new "girls" and a BFF!!! LOL!!!
I like surprise dates, too ~ dinner and movie ~ or just "nothing" stay at home and just be together dates ~ trips, too! I'm not a picky person!
I am not a "material" person ~ I'm an honest, heart-t0-heart person!
Now, having said that, let me add that I cannot function without my calendar ~ it used to be the "handwritten agenda" but now, its my YAHOO calendar on the iPhone ~ my life (and my daughters) micro-managed on a micro-chip in a cell phone! How folks manage without a calendar is beyond my realm of thinking ... I cannot comprehend it! LOL!
AND... one more thing ... I am a "Greeting Card" queen ~ LOVE THEM! I love to send them and I love to receive them! ANYTIME... for ANY REASON... EXCEPT WHEN DICTATED BY A DATE ON A CALENDAR! I knowwww... strange, isn't it!
I guess one could safely say that I'm a "just because I want to; when I want to" kind of woman!
Like I stated in the first sentence ... I like "SURPRISE JUST BECAUSE" tokens!
If I am inclined to give someone something, I want to give it WHEN I WANT TO GIVE IT!
The same goes for receiving a gift - SURPRISE ME! It's not that I don't want it, or don't appreciate it on "holidays" celebrated by the population as a whole, it's just that it is soooo much more special and meaningful when it is given and/or received JUST BECAUSE ~ OUT OF NOWHERE ~ not when EVERYONE is celebrating! (Just like my chocolates in the mailbox today(!!) not Sunday!!! LOL! The "BFF" knows me... LOL!)
However, let's take Valentine's Day for instance - why say "I LOVE YOU" just on February 14th - sending cards, balloons, FLOWERS - why not do it on April 3rd, June 18th, September 10th ...February 10th(!)... how much more special and meaningful would that be???
Personally, to me, A LOT MORE...
If I'm not loved enough to be told everyday, any day, then don't tell me on February 14th just because it's Valentine's Day!
LOVE ME EVERYDAY ... TELL ME EVERYDAY!!!
A post it note, a greeting card, a phone call, an email ... in person ... via carrier pigeon... the "how" isn't nearly as important as the "why"...
WHY??? BECAUSE IT IS 100% TRUE, FROM THE HEART OF THE GIVER!!!
If I love you ... I'm going to tell you! Why not??? Why wait???
Just like the brain has absolutely nothing to do with it, with "real" love, neither does a date on a calendar! - It isn't dictated by what day of the month it is, it's dictated by the HEART!
No brain, No calendar...ALL HEART and SOUL!
Most people that are acquainted with me, know me as Sandy - the "Ice Princess" - cold, stubborn, hard... however, a FEW, a very select few, have seen the other said of me - the "Fiery Passionate" Sandy.
I am both ... Ice and Fire... and I embrace both.
I am passionate to a fault ... I am 100% woman ~ from my stiletto's and "JLL" hair, to my "librarian" glasses and very "unique" sense of humor!
So, if you're reading this ... and you love someone ... tell them that you love them!
Shower them with sweet, soft "barely there" smooches and tender little kisses!
Wrap them up in your love and your hugs and all that YOU are ~ because if you give to them the beautiful, genuine, complete gift of yourself and all that is "you" ~ everyday ~ a date on a calendar and a greeting card aren't important!
The person receiving the gift of you will have everything he or she could ever want!!! And, you'll be just a fortunate when you are the recipient of the same gifts given back to you!!!
"PS, I LOVE YOU..."
BFF... I " heart" you! LOL!!! THANK YOU!!! You really are "the bomb... tick, tock!" LOL!!!
Thursday, January 28, 2010
"Whatever you give a woman, she'll want more; give her sperm and she'll either get an upset tummy or a runny stool; give her a house, you can bet it was in the divorce settlement; give her groceries and her dress size will expand exponentially; give her a smile, she will wonder what you're up to; She multiplies and enlarges her ass based on the number of bon bons she stuffs in her yap; So, if you give her any crap, you can bet it was damn well deserved!
The Blue-Eyed Charm Of The Wicked...