And the greatest of these is Love ...

And the greatest of these is Love ...
1 Corinthians 13:13

Love Song - Third Day

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

It's a "messed up girl thing" ...

Okay ...
I did a 45 minute INSANITY cardio class today at the gym, followed up an hour later by a 60 minute HIP/HOP BOOTY BALLET class! I am insane!
My "booty" is feeling the love tonight, believe me! LOL!

You know ... I go to the gym a minimum of 4 days per week (they are closed on Sunday) and take at least one class on each of the days I am there.
WHY???
The answer is what's "messed up" ~

I do it because I don't want OTHER WOMEN commenting that "I'm fat" ~ heaven forbid,in a bikini!!!

At 5'6" ~ 121 lbs and < 20% body fat ... I AM NOT fat, by any calculation ~ except that of another woman and a mirror! LOL! Ladies, it's called "curves" and men like them! SHEEEE-EEEESH!!

Now, I've neverrrr had a man comment that I am fat ...
It's usually more along the lines of:"umm umm, hey baby, want some fries with that shake..." or some asinine remark such as that - totally a comment not generated in the brain ~ trust me!

BUT... other women ... totally different ballgame!!!!

I mean,one ounce of "jiggle" in the wrong place (booty and/or thighs) and that's a serious cause for the following to be said by "passer-by" females and whether or not they know you, is not important!

"OMG... can you BELIEVE she is wearing THAT? Did she not look in the mirror before she left the house??? Doesn't she have any "real" friends ~ obviously "NOT" or they would have told her "Girlfriend, you need to cover that up! or buy one size bigger ... HELLO!"

I work at the gym, like a crazy person, a minimum of 4 hours per week to avoid this ... It's a "girl" thing! LOL!

I'm 42 ~ my 14 year old deals with this ... I really should be past it, but it neverrrrr ends!! EVER!

When we, as women, are more like a man and happy at any age, weight, stage of life~ fat, bald, WHATEVER ~ then, and only then, can we appreciate the "joys" of being a man! LOL!
As long as they have functioning parts, they are happy and proud! It's amazing!

However, until the time of total acceptance and "whatever bliss" is common place among women, it appears that the fitness centers will keep racking in the big bucks -because as opinionated and judgemental (and jealous) women,we are going to pay the monthly dues, no matter what they cost!

Besides, who needs to spend money on food when you're trying to fit into a bikini, or a size 5?!?!
Food, at this point, is highly over-rated! LOL!!!! Spend it at the gym~on fees & protein bars!!!

I'm going to bed ... if I can get my sore booty up and walk in there!!!
I need to rest ... it's only 8 1/2 hours til 6:30 tomorrow night and I get to do it again!!!
I can't wait!! .... LMAO!!! (not really, I'm trying to "work" it off!!!)

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Gifts ...

Let me start by saying this ... I LOVE surprise gifts ~ "nothing" gifts ~ given for absolutely no reason at all, other than JUST BECAUSE and when I least expect it! MY FAVORITE ~ Daisies!
Take today for instance ... when I got home from work, I checked my mailbox only to find several things I did not want and ONE that I did ... a little box of chocolates! I have the BEST BFF in the world... it's ironic how "she" happened into my life & world, too! Another story for another day... BUT, I went 41 years without a "real" best girlfriend and then, WHAM ... I get breast cancer, new "girls" and a BFF!!! LOL!!!

I like surprise dates, too ~ dinner and movie ~ or just "nothing" stay at home and just be together dates ~ trips, too! I'm not a picky person!
I am not a "material" person ~ I'm an honest, heart-t0-heart person!

Now, having said that, let me add that I cannot function without my calendar ~ it used to be the "handwritten agenda" but now, its my YAHOO calendar on the iPhone ~ my life (and my daughters) micro-managed on a micro-chip in a cell phone! How folks manage without a calendar is beyond my realm of thinking ... I cannot comprehend it! LOL!

AND... one more thing ... I am a "Greeting Card" queen ~ LOVE THEM! I love to send them and I love to receive them! ANYTIME... for ANY REASON... EXCEPT WHEN DICTATED BY A DATE ON A CALENDAR! I knowwww... strange, isn't it!

I guess one could safely say that I'm a "just because I want to; when I want to" kind of woman!

Like I stated in the first sentence ... I like "SURPRISE JUST BECAUSE" tokens!

If I am inclined to give someone something, I want to give it WHEN I WANT TO GIVE IT!

The same goes for receiving a gift - SURPRISE ME! It's not that I don't want it, or don't appreciate it on "holidays" celebrated by the population as a whole, it's just that it is soooo much more special and meaningful when it is given and/or received JUST BECAUSE ~ OUT OF NOWHERE ~ not when EVERYONE is celebrating! (Just like my chocolates in the mailbox today(!!) not Sunday!!! LOL! The "BFF" knows me... LOL!)

However, let's take Valentine's Day for instance - why say "I LOVE YOU" just on February 14th - sending cards, balloons, FLOWERS - why not do it on April 3rd, June 18th, September 10th ...February 10th(!)... how much more special and meaningful would that be???
Personally, to me, A LOT MORE...

If I'm not loved enough to be told everyday, any day, then don't tell me on February 14th just because it's Valentine's Day!
LOVE ME EVERYDAY ... TELL ME EVERYDAY!!!
A post it note, a greeting card, a phone call, an email ... in person ... via carrier pigeon... the "how" isn't nearly as important as the "why"...
WHY??? BECAUSE IT IS 100% TRUE, FROM THE HEART OF THE GIVER!!!

If I love you ... I'm going to tell you! Why not??? Why wait???

Just like the brain has absolutely nothing to do with it, with "real" love, neither does a date on a calendar! - It isn't dictated by what day of the month it is, it's dictated by the HEART!
No brain, No calendar...ALL HEART and SOUL!

Most people that are acquainted with me, know me as Sandy - the "Ice Princess" - cold, stubborn, hard... however, a FEW, a very select few, have seen the other said of me - the "Fiery Passionate" Sandy.

I am both ... Ice and Fire... and I embrace both.

I am passionate to a fault ... I am 100% woman ~ from my stiletto's and "JLL" hair, to my "librarian" glasses and very "unique" sense of humor!

So, if you're reading this ... and you love someone ... tell them that you love them!

Shower them with sweet, soft "barely there" smooches and tender little kisses!

Wrap them up in your love and your hugs and all that YOU are ~ because if you give to them the beautiful, genuine, complete gift of yourself and all that is "you" ~ everyday ~ a date on a calendar and a greeting card aren't important!
The person receiving the gift of you will have everything he or she could ever want!!! And, you'll be just a fortunate when you are the recipient of the same gifts given back to you!!!


"PS, I LOVE YOU..."

BFF... I " heart" you! LOL!!! THANK YOU!!! You really are "the bomb... tick, tock!" LOL!!!